And told the kids to pretend I’m not home.
I feel so incredibly grumpy that I just don’t want to risk ‘biting’ their heads off.
For days I’ve had this constant battle going on inside my head. The closer we get to my husband leaving, the worse it gets and the harder it is to WIN that battle.
I even battled about whether I should write. I hate being ‘depressing’. HATE it. Abhor it is probably not a strong enough word for how much I don’t like to be a ‘downer’.
However, this is my life right now, and this is my blog.
We met with our realtor yesterday, and then again today. Yesterday to hash out a new game plan. I asked him what sells a home in this market lately, because if it’s just price, well… if we drop the realtor, we can drop 20 grand immediately and never see a difference in OUR bottom line.
I think that got some thought juices flowing. He suggested that he put some ads into local horse mags/websites etc..
Yes, how about you do that.
Today he brought over papers to “unlist” the house and then to “re-list” it again as a new listing. We’re trying, anything, we need this hobby farm to sell. NOW.
I told him I do NOT want to sit here all winter while my husband, and the father of our five children, is 2000 km’s away living alone in a trailer, in a campground.
However… I know I have no control over this.
And THAT is what’s driving me insane. THAT is what is causing this great battle inside my head.
I think about how pissed (not a strong enough word right now but this is a family friendly site) I am that after all this time we still sit here. Waiting.
Then I counteract that thought in my head with, “But you’re so blessed that Graydon finally has a GREAT job!”
And I know this is true. So I carry on, feeling better yet again.
Then I start to feel so very disappointed that we’ve even gotten this far. TWO days until my husband leaves, until he MOVES to Saskatchewan, and we haven’t a single CLUE as to what’s going to happen on this end.
And I feel sad again, angry even.
Then I look at my children, and realize how blessed I am, and think, “who do you think you are to feel SORRY for yourself!??”
And so the battle continues. It goes on and on until I’m hiding in my bathroom because I can’t stand the thought of the children seeing my tears.
Hiding from my husband because I know he’ll be upset by my sadness. I fear writing this because I know he’ll read it, and then he’ll know how I really feel.
I don’t want to make things harder on him. Yet at the same time, I don’t want him thinking it’s so easy for me to just say “goodbye”.
It’s not. I HATE this.
But it’s time to remind myself, yet again, that I am blessed. That this time may just be for a short time. I may be worrying, fretting, feeling sad, feeling angry, for naught. So I will try not to worry. I will continue to battle these thoughts and feelings and carry on.
Because it’s all I can do right now to keep from falling apart.
Pietra!!! I’ve been praying (and will continue to) that your homestead sells quickly so that you and the children can join your husband in SK, sooner rather than later!!! <3 my thoughts are with you , and have been a lot lately as the day approaches that Graydon is to leave!! You are such a strong and brave Momma to be doing what you do, every.single.day.
Much love, and many prayers!!
K Jaspers
oh Peggy I am sad for you!!
I’m reading this with tears streaming down my face. I wish I could come over and just hug you and let you cry. It’s okay to cry. This is very, very hard to do. Father I pray for Peggy right now, please wrap your arms of love around her and just love on her. Help Peggy to keep her eyes fixed on you and know and trust that you do have EVERYTHING under control even when we feel like our world is falling down around us. Amen. Love you Peggy XXXXOOOO
*hugs*
Your realtor should have thought of that months ago.
Around here, we have a tradition called the grumpy card, where the person who calls grumpy card gets to put them selves in time out for an hour or two, but only one person at a time gets to be officially grumpy. Just recognizing that you are allowed to be grumpy or sad can be a big help.
Thank you Kyla, I truly appreciate the prayers, and that you take the time to stop by and let me know. 🙂
Thank you Ely, I hope your hubby is home now?
Thank you Anna Marie, you always know just what to say to make me feel better, well it made me cry, but you know what I mean. 🙂 Thank you for your prayers. MUCH appreciated and so is the time you take to stop by and let us know you’re thinking of us. I hope you all are doing well, send me an update some time soon, when you can.
Any chance you’re heading out this way again?
Ah yes, I could use a grumpy card once a day lately. ha ha. I think the kids all could too, although they are all doing well, considering.
You’re right, allowing ourselves to realize how we’re feeling can be a big help. I think often we’re ‘programmed’ to try and hide from our real feelings.